Hi everyone,
I'd like to hear from you about how to react to peers that lecture on subjects about which they don't have skills on.
This has happened a handful of times but I always felt uncomfortable. In their defence, I have to say that they don't really know my background and they have never received any training or coaching. Although their own experience is short I know that their lecturing is well intentioned which makes me even more uncomfortable. This happens with high S and high I. My high D peers, well we discuss stuff like this freely to be honest. I'm high D also, quite a bit of I.
The key sentence that makes my blood boil is "You know that when..." for example "You know that when you manage people you don't have time to prepare meetings." and then proceeds with some past experience that "proves" his point.
On one hand I almost feel the urge to reply to it but usually the answer I get back is in the line of denial and shutting down. On the other hand I don't to leave a mark on our relationship proving whatever I'm reply with my own past experience, training, coaching etc. I always sound arrogant for some reason.
Looks to me like it's a loose loose situation and that loose loose doesn't compute to me.
Thanks in advance.
Shake it off
Don't let these comments bother you so much. Think about it, what does it matter what they say. Drop it, move on, focus on your own work, results, performance, etc.
Good luck (I'm also high D so understand but you just need to ignore).
D
Don't Rise To The Bait
I'm a high s. Here's my lecture:-)
I agree with DTiller above. Do what my wife does when I make some sort of outlandish statement. She just ignores me.
Possible response: "Hmm. That's something to think about. Thanks." Then disregard the advice. No harm. No foul. Go back to your work space and have a good silent laugh.